Your previously peaceful buddle of joy has begun crying more and more! At about two weeks of age infant crying starts to increase, and generally peaks at about 2 months of age. Thankfully, it generally begins to lessen at 3-4 months, but what do you do in the mean-time?
On average babies cry about two hours each day, some more and some less. Your baby cries to communicate discomfort, hunger, the need to be changed, when he doesn’t feel well and when he wants to be held.
It can be confusing trying to figure out what your baby needs. Over time, you will learn to recognise your baby’s cues and cries. A postpartum doula can help you learn to recognise different cries and establish what your baby needs, sooner.
You can soothe your baby by:
- making baby as comfortable as possible
- changing baby’s diaper
- trying to hold baby in different positions
- trying to feed baby slowly and burp often
- gently rock or walk with your baby
- talk to your baby, sing lullabys, play relaxing music (we highly recommend The Rhythm Within)
When Your Baby Won’t Stop Crying
Even the most experience mother can find herself frustrated and perplexed by a crying baby. You’ve fed, changed and rocked the baby but he just won’t stop crying.
It’s not uncommon for babies to cry for long periods of time. Regular bouts of crying (especially in the evenings) used to be called colic. Now, these long periods of crying are considered the same as other crying, just more intense.
Feeling frustrated is a normal responce to a baby that cries for long periods. Your body is actually programmed to react to you baby crying by increasing your blood pressure, and heart rate.
If you feel your stress levels getting out of control:
- put your baby in a safe place (crib) or have someone else hold him
- leave the room
- take time to care for yourself and calm down
- never shake your baby
If your baby is crying a lot, it is not a reflection of whether or not you are a good parent. Being unable to soothe your baby is not your fault. It doesn’t mean your baby doesn’t love you or is mad at you. If the long bouts of crying persist, you should talk to your doctor to investigate any possible underlying conditions.
Our postpartum doulas often work with families during the first few months when crying and “fussing” is at it’s worst. We can care for the baby, share the tips and tricks of experience, or manage household tasks and older children so that you can make you baby’s needs your primary focus. Contact us today to meet our doulas!